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Thought for Spring 2018

 

When I think of Spring I think of new beginnings, change, possibility.

What  change do you want to make this year?

What qualities would you like to grow this year?

In making the change what possibility does this open up for you ?

 

 

 

 

 

Author: Jill • Filed under: Featured • Posted: March 12, 2018 11:21 am

Thought for October- intolerable feelings

Most people dislike feeling uncomfortable. There are many different ways that humans can feel uncomfortable…we can be hot, cold, tired, in pain, hungry, unwell, and the list could go on.

I want to say something about  emotional discomfort, or what is often called distress. We may not like it, but experiencing uncomfortable emotions is a natural part of life.

However, there is a difference between disliking unpleasant emotions, but nevertheless accepting that they are an inevitable part of life and hence riding through them, versus experiencing unpleasant emotions as unbearable and needing to get rid of them. Some people tell us that they “can’t face”, “can’t bear”, “can’t stand”, or “can’t tolerate” emotional distress. Being intolerant of experiencing emotional discomfort can actually breed a whole bunch of problems, as it interferes with living a fulfilling life, and can make worse any emotional discomfort we might be experiencing. If difficulty facing your feeling so tolerating distress sounds like you, then here is a resource that you will find useful .

Modules:

  • Module 1: Understanding Distress Intolerance
    This module defines what is meant by distress intolerance, and provides general information about negative emotions.  It considers how our negative beliefs about distress and the methods we use to escape our distress, keep distress intolerance a problem in the long term.  PDF document: 352kb. Updated 8 June 2012.

     

  • Module 2: Accepting Distress
    This module highlights the importance of negative emotions to our survival, and that our emotions are not permanent but are ever changing experiences.  The module focuses on learning to tolerate distress by accepting our negative emotions, which is a skill one can develop via mindfulness practice. PDF document: 277kb. Updated 8 June 2012.

     

  • Module 3: Improving Distress
    This module explores ways you can improve your distress, by acting opposite to your urge to escape the distress, and participating in activities that are either activating or soothing. Guidance on how to solve problems that may be causing distress is also addressed.  PDF document: 332kb. Updated 8 June 2012.

     

  • Module 4: Tolerating Distress
    This final module brings the strategies from this information package together by developing an individualised Distress Tolerance Action Plan.  Ways of regularly applying this plan are reviewed, with the aim of developing a sense of emotional wellbeing. PDF document: 326kb. Updated 8 June 2012.

 

 

Author: Jill • Filed under: Featured • Posted: October 13, 2017 4:09 pm

Health Matters

Talking to Your Kids About Drug and Alcohol Abuse: The Ultimate Do’s and Don’ts Guide

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Intervention eBook: What to do if your child is drinking or using drugs ?

Intervention_Guide_3.pdf

 

Author: Jill • Filed under: Family Matters, Health Matters • Posted: 3:38 pm

About Strokes: Warm Fuzzies and Cold Pricklies

What is a Stroke?

A stroke is an act by someone else that lets you know they are there.

Dr. Calude Steiner , in a book called  ” A Warm Fuzzy Tale” names pleeasant strokes ” Warm Fuzzies” because you feel warm and fuzzy all over when you get one.  He calls unpleasent strokes ” cold pricklies”

An example of a warm fuzzy :

touch

hello

a compliment

a warm and friendly look

a smile

What we say and the way we look at each other as well as the way we touch each other can all be pleasant strokes(Warm Fuzzies)

The very best strokes (Warm Fuzzies)are the ones you don’t have to earn – the strokes you get from people important to you  just for being . These are free strokes .  These strokes are not only for being good, smart or winning  but just for being you .

Strokes are vital to your physical and mental health and you need them every day to be healthy and happy


Author: Jill • Filed under: Featured, Narrative Matters • Posted: May 13, 2017 6:52 pm

11 year olds view of love

 

 

 

Love is like the Moon

It can either be stunning or dull,

When you reach towards it it can move away or come closer,

On certain days it can shine bright,

It can make you feel alone in the world,

Sometimes it seems bigger than usual,

It gives an illusion that you are the only one with it,

It follows you everywhere,

Love is like the moon

It can come closer or further away

It can make you feel alone, stunning or dull, it shines bright

It follows you everywhere you go, it will never leave you alone,

It makes you wonder how it feels,

Love is tiring

 

By E Parker 18/11/16

 

Author: Jill • Filed under: Poetry Matters • Posted: January 3, 2017 11:01 am

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