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Thought for December


The holiday season should be a time filled with joy, yet, for some people these months are filled with obligations, stress, and guilt.

Throw out your inner critic.

One of the uglier parts of this season is the need for perfection – whether it is hosting the perfect party, having the best Christmas decorations on the block, or finding the perfect present for someone.   Of course you want to do your best, but it’s also important to be gentle with yourself and not aim for perfection if it starts to cause other harmful emotions like stress, anxiety, guilt, frustration or anger.  We tend to be most critical of ourselves and our actions so use this season as a reminder to practice grace with yourself as well as others.


Author: Jill • Filed under: Featured, Health Matters • Posted: December 11, 2015 6:57 pm

Thought for the day

Fun is a basic need . Did you prioritise fun this weekend? There are five basic needs: Survival, Love, Power, Freedom, Fun. To have a balanced life we strive to meet all of the needs. Why not take an inventory to see which need might be most important to you.

Author: Jill • Filed under: Health Matters • Posted: October 11, 2015 10:11 am

Thought for the weekend

“Take some time to relax this weekend it’s a healthy choice”

Author: Jill • Filed under: Health Matters • Posted: October 2, 2015 9:45 pm

Thought for the day



Fear is not something to be conquered or eliminated. Instead, we may need to pay close attention to its message.

Most of us experience fear as a kind of stop sign or flashing red light that warns: “Danger! Do not enter!” But we may need to decode that signal and consider what it’s trying to convey.

What is the actual nature of the danger? Is it past or present, real or imagined? Are we feeling anxious because we are boldly charting new territory, or because we’re about to do something stupid?

Sometimes, we feel a stab of fear or a wave of anxiety because our unconscious is warning us that we’re truly off track.


There are times when we need to push past our dread and resolve—with our heart pounding in our chest—to act.

At still other times, we may need to identify the actual sources of fear—past or present—that may be obscured from our view. For example, the anxiety that washes over you when you contemplate confronting your spouse may mask an underlying, ancient terror of speaking up to your father when you were a child.

There is one final kind of fear we need to decode—the fear we don’t feel at all (at least, not consciously). When we can’t fully face our anxiety and clarify it’s sources, we tend to act it out instead—attacking a colleague, nagging our child for the 12th time, or working all weekend on a project that was good enough on Friday afternoon—all the while convincing ourselves that these responses are totally rational and warranted.

When anxiety is chronically high it leads to more serious outcomes such as greed, bigotry, scapegoating, violence, and other forms of cruelty. In these anxious times, on both the personal and political fronts, ideas are embraced and decisions are made not on the basis of clear thinking that considers both history and the future, but rather on the basis of hearts filled with fear.

We owe it to ourselves and others to manage our anxiety and fear as well as possible.

Author: Jill • Filed under: Health Matters • Posted: September 16, 2015 1:32 pm

Thought for 2014

Time and Tide wait for no man- time is precious and should not be wasted because no one is powerful to stop time from running.




Mindfulness is the awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose, in the present moment and non judgementally, to things as they are.

Jon Kabat-Zinn (1994)

Mindfulness is an ancient form of meditation which if practiced regularly can help us step away from the constant cycle of thinking and worrying to simply being ‘here and now’. Mindfulness, whilst therapeutic, is not therapy.
It is simply a process where we come to know ourselves a bit better.
By quietly sitting and observing our own minds, we get to know how we work.
By doing this on a regular basis we come to see that it is often the way our minds relate to problems rather than the problems themselves that can cause us difficulty and sometimes harm.

Since the 1980′s mindfulness meditation has been rigorously researched for its benefits and piloted by specialists who are themselves dedicated mindfulness practitioners. The original Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Programme (MBSR) was piloted by Jon Kabat-Zinn and staff at the University of Massachussetts Medical Centre, USA. This has since been adapted by Zendel Segal, Mark Williams, and John Teasdale to be used with people prone to depressive relapse. It is now also used in fields such as pain relief, psychotherapy, eating disorders, cancer and heart conditions in a variety of clinical and community settings.

There are a growing number of practitioners in the UK. Major centres for study and research include the Centre for Mindfulness Research and Practice (University of Bangor) and the Oxford Mindfulness Centre.





Author: Jill • Filed under: Featured, Health Matters • Posted: January 6, 2014 5:00 pm

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