Nurture and Nature
Without the touch from passing insects our flowers would not reproduce and die. Without the pollen from our flowers our insects would shrivel up and die.
Every person has the need to be touched and to be recognized by other people. These are biological and physical needs which can be thought of as “hungers”. These hungers can be appeased by recognition – a stroke. Strokes can be given in the form of actual physical touch or by some symbolic form such as a look, a word, a gesture or an act that says “I know you’re there”.
Do you know some one who holds resentments and then blows up at slight provocation?
Do you know someone who rejects compliments when they’re given?
Do you know someone who shows appreciation and is a pleasure to be around?
If you do you have observed people giving and receiving positive, negative and counterfeit strokes.
People need strokes to survive. Positive strokes leave the person feeling good, alive, alert and significant, feeling “I’m ok”.
So my stroke to you all today is: a smile and an acknowledgement that you are there.
Jill D-P
My perspective of the misty morning:
The Mist came over the hay bales in the bottom field this morning and the earthy smells of autumn’s preparations hung in the air.
It made me breathe in deeply just to feel I was part of its plans for the season to come.
I felt alive and in awe of the millennia of autumns which have eased in long before my time and how they will ease in long after I have left the views for someone else.
Still each year we walk together for a while.
My friend Andys perspective of the misty morning!
Yeah we cant see a freaking thing either!
LOL! Hope you all enjoy autumn this year and feel part of it.
Lindy Loo.
By Linda Dickinson September 10th 2011
Ask What If?
Too often we accept things the way they are.
That famous saying ‘if you always do what you always did you will always get what you all ways got.’
To realise our full potential we need to update the strategies for dealing with life which we decided upon as infants. When we find that these strategies are no longer working for us, we need to replace them with new ones which do work.
So when you reach an impasse take a new approach.
J D-P
( TA Today pg7)
‘We cannot be made to feel or behave in particular ways by others, or by the environment. Other people in our lives, or our life circumstances, may exert strong pressures on us. But is always our decision whether to conform to these pressures. We are responsible for our own feelings and behaviour.
Any time we make a decision, we can change that decision later. This is true of early decisions that we make about ourselves and the world. If some of these infant decisions are producing uncomfortable results for us as grown-ups, we can trace the decisions and change them for new more appropriate decisions. Thus people can change. We achieve change not merely by insight into our old patterns of behaviour, but by actively deciding to change those patterns. The changes we make can be real and lasting.’
