Hello to all of you who are interested in joining a Private Members’ Forum. We hope you will find this site a safe enough space to excavate new depths in yourself and in relationship with others. We expect to publish a monthly summary of the activity on the site, so that you can estimate whether this site is for you. Email info@connecting-space.co.uk for the joining process. You can also apply for a guest pass to view the site.

There are different categories that can ‘contain’ various themed posts, together with contributions. These are the posts so far:

Art Matters

This can be whatever interests you

• Chemo Patience! A file of 30+ live drawings done whilst awaiting chemo.

Dream Matters
An opportunity to talk about dreams, there impact and what they mean for you

• Living with Aliens!- A dream described and reflected upon
• Connections between emotions and dreams- vital for mental health

Health Matters

Have you health issues you are struggling with?

A Journal of my Journey through Chemo

• Facing up to what is
• Dark Angels
• Stained Glass Mosaic
• Awaiting the Un-Known
• Ten past Midnight
• Walking without Pity
• Awareness of Choice
• Butterfly alights on Thistle
• Inhabiting my Space
• Listening to you
• Learning not to be afraid of Fear
• Meeting me where I am
• Falling in Love?
• An ‘Alive Being’?

Narrative Matters


The story of our lives …

• Quilt of Holes
• Unravelled
• Unravelling the ‘Shoulds and Oughts’

News

This can be any news, personal or public, that you want to draw our attention to ..

• Side effects of chemo

Poetry

Sharing poems with comments that move you, whether written by you or another.

• Anger
• Dancing with God
• Silence

Relationship Matters

Examining our relationships

• Living with Aliens -Looking at the sense of self and relationships with others
• Inside Out!-Self analysis the impact of external factors upon identity and function
• Frog speaks out- dialogue between internal and external states

This website is ‘organic’ but is structured in such a way that a person has the opportunity to explore their hopes and fears with others. The posts are given character with the use of images which describe the writing. So far the site is being tested by a small numbers of subscribers. Just like a seed grows slowly and requires time to germinate, so we are allowing the site to show itself as we work together with our own particular insights and gifts. We welcome your positive feedback and contributions to the site.

Technical Matters

• Uploading Images

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Connecting Space Journals – Online Therapeutic Community

Regular Summary One – May 08

Hello to all of you who are interested in subscribing to our no fee Connecting-Space Journals. We hope you will find this site a safe enough space to excavate new depths in yourself and in relationship with others. Our hope is for this to become an online Therapeutic Community. We expect to publish regular summaries giving an overview of activity on the site, so that you can estimate whether this site is for you. Guest Passes are available if you wish to view site prior to becoming a member: please email info@connecting-space.co.uk

This is the Registration hyperlink off the main web site. All are reminded that this process is semi-automated and requires an invitation code to be allowed on to the journal part of the site. If you already have a user name and password this link takes you to the Logon Screen and the part of the site where you can put up a post, or an image.

Connecting Space is an ‘organic’ website structured in such a way that a person has the opportunity to explore their hopes and fears with others. The posts are given character with the use of images which describe the writing. So far the site is being tested by a small numbers of subscribers. Just like a seed grows slowly and requires time to germinate, so we are allowing the site to show itself as we work together with our own particular insights and gifts. We welcome your positive feedback and contributions to the site.

There are different categories that can ‘contain’ various themed posts, together with contributions. The ‘MattersTitles’ are also links to that part of the site that grabs your interest; they of course will not work without you being logged in.

Art Matters – depicting Life events …

• Chemo Patience! A file of 20+ live drawings done whilst awaiting chemo.

Dream Matters – opportunity to talk about dreams, impact and meaning …

• Living with Aliens! – A dream described and reflected upon
• Connections between emotions and dreams – vital for mental health

Health Matters – health issues that affect you …

A Journal of my Journey through Chemo (a selection from 17 titles)

• Facing up to what is
• Awareness of Choice
• Learning not to be afraid of Fear
• Falling in Love?

Narrative Matters – the story of our lives …

• Quilt of Holes
• Unravelling the ‘Shoulds and Oughts’

News – personal or public…

• Side effects of chemo
• Police in child sex ring inquiry

Poetry Matters – poems with comments that move you

• Anger
• Dancing with God
• Silence
• Expression of Self

Relationship Matters – examining our relationships

• Living with Aliens
• Frog speaks out

Technical Matters – site questions, feedback askfred1@googlemail.com

• Uploading Images

Therapy Matters – finding your voice…

• The girl with a hole

” Such fantastic images give us great delight, and , since they are created by us, they undoubtedly have a symbolic relation to our lives and destinies”
Goethe

“It is the function of creative men and women to perceive the relations between thoughts, or things , or forms of expression that may seem utterly different,and to be able to combine them into some new forms- the power to connect the seemingly unconnected.
William Plomer

It seems we forget or are never consciously aware of most of our dreams. However some dreams stay with us vividly. Unravelling the significance of a dream in relation to its content and how it relates to concerns in life can be valuable .

In Oct 03 I was having a lot of vivid dreams. One I remember clearly.

Small bees flying into my ears. I was fighting to prevent them going back in. I eventually managed to plug my ears. But the right ear kept filling up, I had to pull out a large bee. I could not get it out whole , it left its sting.

My interpretation at the time taking into consideration what was happening in my life :
People and events leaving their mark (listening to people). Although things in the beginning may not have been harmful they grew inside (stored emotion) and I battled to remove them from inside. Things have been left inside that hurt (large bee sting). The constant battle not to be hurt and the fear that that is what is going to happen. When I feel I have done all I can do to block out the possibility of being stung, the realization that it is coming from inside.

Recommended Read: dreaming reality:- how dreaming keeps us sane, or can drive us mad
Joe Griffin & Ivan Tyrell

This is a poem sent to me via group email from Carolyn. It reminds me of a story someone told me of a woman warrior being taught battle skills by an expert. The warrior was surprised that every time she approached the expert, he moved! She had to learn the skill of moving toward him and with him … He is leading and she is learning to be in tune. Where I would part company with the unknown writer of this poem, is that there is definitely a cost involved in following God’s dance steps. What do you think?

When I meditated on the word Guidance,
I kept seeing “dance” at the end of the word.
I remember reading that doing God’s will is a lot like dancing.
When two people try to lead, nothing feels right.
The movement doesn’t flow with the music,
and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky.
When one person realizes that, and lets the other lead,
both bodies begin to flow with the music.
One gives gentle cues, perhaps with a nudge to the back
or by pressing Lightly in one direction or another.
It’s as if two become one body, moving beautifully.
The dance takes surrender, willingness,
and attentiveness from one person
and gentle guidance and skill from the other.
My eyes drew back to the word Guidance.
When I saw “G”: I thought of God, followed by “u” and “i”.
“God, “u” and “i” dance.”
God, you, and I dance.
As I lowered my head, I became willing to trust
that I would get guidance about my life.
Once again, I became willing to let God lead.
My prayer for you today is that God’s blessings
and mercies are upon you on this day and everyday.
May you abide in God, as God abides in you.
Dance together with God, trusting God to lead
and to guide you through each season of your life.
This prayer is powerful and there is nothing attached.
If God has done anything for you in your life,
please share this message with someone else.
There is no cost but a lot of rewards;
so let’s continue to pray for one another.
And I Hope You Dance !
Unknown

A powerful dream that means more?
Last night I dreamt that I noticed something protruding from my wrist. It was a live, worm like, as thin as a thread. As I pulled I felt the pain from deep inside my arm. It struggled against being seen. There was so much of it. As I drew it out it began to find its way into my hand, to go back, I had to wrestle with it and throw it with great force as far from me as possible. No sooner had I done this than a larger alien appeared thicker (more vein like than before) the pulling out of this alien thing was painful and seemed ongoing, no end in sight. There was a sense that they were multiplying in side and the more I teased out the more I noticed how my body was riddled. They were moving around under the surface of my skin an overwhelming sense of being taken over by something that did not belong to me. They seemed strong and it was hard work, a painful battle, a sense of needing to casino online understand their origin and a disbelief to how many there were. It seemed I have a hard drive recovery software base to which I add weekly and each week I copy the updated file to a cd-r using the Microsoft program. the more I extracted the larger they got, stronger casino online and harder to control.

This dream is familiar to me. I relate it to the internal struggle, to understand how my life experiences, the hurting child parts struggle to be visible. How the messages received from care givers reinforced feeling invisible and began They introduced MapReduce as simplified best-data-recovery.com processing software on large clusters. to casino online take over. For me the pulling out is the need to understand, there begins a realisation how deep the traumatic experiences go and  how they have taken over my functioning. Impacting on my ability to communicate clearly with people. I find myself drawn to relationships that repeat those of the past, I am learning to listen to the hurting self and tease out what patterns of behaviour are being repeated in the present in order to do it differently. I recognise my choice of life partner was done through misted vision. I live with an alien!!! We speak a foreign language .Walking through the door of my home sometimes feels like entering a new world. One within which I struggle to survive.

Thinking out loud:-
Aliens are within and external to our self. External aliens found in the form of our intimate relationships. Miss communication day to day, the sense of been invisible or misunderstood.

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